Season Two


Episode 12: Ditch Dating Drama w/ Olivia Baylor


The pandemic hasn’t forced singles into love lockdown mode as statistics indicate that more people are turning to dating apps in 2021. Although the virtual environment offers seemingly infinite options, more isn’t always better and doesn’t necessarily increase chances for a love match.

On this episode, couples therapist Olivia L. Baylor highlights considerations and guidance for those looking to avoid dating drama once and for all! We discuss why dating is so hard, how to set expectations, the benefits of couples therapy/counseling and more!



  • Avoid using the terms “mentally disabled,” “mentally handicapped,” or “mentally ill.” It is appropriate to say that someone “has a mental illness.” It can also be appropriate to say “mental health condition,” since many people who deal with mental health concerns may not have a formal diagnosis or a full-fledged illness.
  • Therapists recognize that gift giving is customary and a matter of respect for some cultures. Therapists will acknowledge this with the client but the therapist’s policy on gifts will remain the same as for all other clients.



Olivia L. Baylor

  • Purchase Before I Do and other therapy and relationship resources from her website! 
  • Instagram: @LifeRevisionsCounselingLLC

Olivia Baylor’s Bio: I am a Licensed Mental Health Therapist and owner of Life Revisions Counseling, LLC in Catonsville Maryland. I have a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, Master of Arts in Criminal Justice, Master of Science in Mental Health Therapy, and a Post-Bach Certification in Couples and Family Systems. I also possess a certification as a National Certified Counselor (NCC) and Board Certified-TeleMental Health Provider (BC-TMH). I have specialized training in Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorder and Proper Component of Care from Postpartum Support International (PSI). With this training, I’m able to screen and offer therapy services to clients who struggle with Perinatal Mood Disorder, Post-Adoption Depression, and Anxiety. I also have training in conducting clinical assessments such as T Visa, U Visa, Asylum, and VAWA. In 2020 I received training and certification as a Certified Clinical Trauma Specialist-Individual (CCTSI) from the International Trauma Institute. Also in 2020, I became a registered yoga trainer with over 200 hours (RYT-200). I have been trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Prepare Enrich. I also offer speaking engagements on premarital counseling, LGBTQ+ affirmative counseling, effective communication, healthy relationships, cultural differences on raising African children in American culture, and preparing for private practice. In 2017, I published a Premarital Counseling Workbook called, Before I do: Complete Premarital Counseling Workbook for Heterosexual, LGBTQ, and Polyamorous Couples. In 2021, I published my second book called My Therapy Journey, a six-month fillable notebook and journal to track your therapy goals, progress, and growth.



  • Expectations and assumptions can cause conflict in the absence of honest communication
  • Compatibility includes many considerations such as family upbringing, cultural differences, boundaries, and more
  • Create “job descriptions” to assess what you’re seeking in/from a partner and what you have to offer a partner
  • Personal accountability and self-awareness are essential
  • Quantity of options does not mean that all of those options are compatible ones
  • Use boundary disclaimers to make your expectations clear from the onset
  • Develop your dating skills
  • Get familiar with the role of therapy in relationships for those who are dating or married
  • Understand the value of pre-marital counseling
  • Use Mrs. Baylor’s book Before I do: Complete Pre-Marital Counseling Workbook for Heterosexual, LGBTQ, & Polyamorous Couples as a resource
  • Respect appropriate boundaries between the client and therapist
  • Distinguish therapy and coaching and recognize how they can compliment each other



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